Crises in Relationships with Loved Ones | Liberty

“THOSE I LOVE ARE MOVING AWAY FROM ME” OR CRISES IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH LOVED ONES.

Your love is now being tested for authenticity.

Welcome to this difficult, but also beautiful moment in your life, when so much is changing for you… Changing for the better, although you may not always feel it right away. Please accept warmth, light and love from your Divine family! Feel how much we love you, how happy we are to be here and now with you! Oh, we hope that our love, our help and support will make it easier for you to get through this period of change.

We know what’s happening to you. So many things that were familiar, comfortable and understandable suddenly disappear from your life. You realize that the past is gone, and you find yourself on the verge of something new, unknown. Sometimes you feel like life is falling apart. This is not so, dear ones! One wave goes away and is replaced by another. Higher – but it can also take you to higher levels of development, levels of higher achievements, a happier and more fulfilling life! Your task is just not to get confused, but to catch this new wave in order to be on its crest. You can do this, dears!

We know what painful and not at all simple changes are affecting you now. These are changes in relationships with loved ones, with those who are dear to you, whom you love, with whom you are used to walking through life hand in hand. These are your loved ones, your family, your close and dear friends. Yes, you now see that many of them are beginning to misunderstand you. You have disagreements on some issues that are important to you. Your values and beliefs become increasingly different. It’s as if some kind of wall is standing between you. And you don’t know what to do about it.

Sometimes you start to doubt yourself. Sometimes you think: “Why do I need this enlightenment, why do I need this spiritual growth, if it separates me from those I love? It’s better for me to live like them, remain an ordinary person, forget about my spiritual nature, and at least we will maintain the same good relationship.”

This is an erroneous conclusion. Following this logic, you will not restore the previous relationship. You will only make them worse. Do you know why? Because, having abandoned yourself, your true spiritual nature, blocking your path to development, you will constantly feel suffering in the depths of your soul. You will feel a tremendous loss. At the same time, you will remember that you agreed to this loss for the sake of your loved ones. Whether you like it or not, you will blame them for this. 

Even if you consciously decide not to blame anyone, hidden resentment and hidden accusation will remain in your subconscious. By doing this you will destroy yourself, your loved ones, and your relationships, as you will become a carrier of destructive energies, which include resentment and accusation. You will become an unhappy person and make your loved ones unhappy. You don’t want this, do you? Of course not.

“But where is the way out? – you ask. – Does he exist at all? Or is the only way out by breaking up with loved ones?”

There is a way out, but it is not necessarily so bad. Let me answer you this way: this situation is a test of how close you really are, and whether true love really exists between you. Know: true love, truly close people are not afraid of disagreements, nor are they afraid of the crises in relationships that you go through. You will go through crises and stay together, because love is stronger than crises, disagreements, and misunderstandings.

If your love does not endure these tests, you will only have to accept this situation as it is, asking yourself the question: “Was it love?”

You see, dear ones, people have many states and feelings that they call love, but in essence this is not love. You can call love the desire to control another person, the desire to influence him, the desire to receive something from him, the desire to use his power and live his life, the desire to be like him, the desire to find someone who is your copy… All this is not love in the Divine sense.

Love in the Divine sense is a feeling that does not depend on anything and does not set conditions. You can love someone who is completely different from you, who thinks and feels differently, who lives a different life and has different value and belief systems. At the same time, you can remain committed to your beliefs and live your life. You can love each other and not try to influence each other, not try to control each other. You can free each other from mutually limiting expectations. Yes, you may not even expect anything from each other – but still love! This will be true love, true freedom and true mutual respect.

I will tell you which people will leave you first, feeling that you have moved far from them along the path of your development, that your beliefs, values, interests have changed. You will be abandoned by those who did not love you, but only tried to control you. Now they will see that it has become impossible to control you. And if, apart from this selfish interest, nothing kept them near you, they will disappear from your life.

Do you think it’s worth regretting? Should you regret that a person left who did not really love you, but only took advantage of you? Is it worth giving up yourself, your true spiritual essence, your growth and development, your mission to bring the light and love of God to planet Earth for this? I sincerely hope your answer is, “No, you shouldn’t.”

Someone who loves you will accept you as you are, accept the changes that have happened to you, and allow you to go your own way in life, while remaining close to you. Do you think this is impossible? Perhaps, dear ones, because with the Spirit everything is possible.

The key to overcoming crises: change your expectations and ideas about what other people should be like.

Dear ones, I will tell you what to do: start with yourself. Analyze your relationships with those you consider close. Carefully consider these relationships, and honestly answer yourself the question: do you have a desire to manage these people and influence them? Do you have unreasonable expectations associated with these people? Are there any conditions that you set for them?

Maybe you expect them to give you love, and only then are you ready to love in return? Maybe you want them to behave in accordance with your ideas about what is right and what is wrong? Maybe you expect them to fulfill your conditions, and are upset when you don’t see this?

Do you now understand that these old belief systems and perceptions must be changed?

I’ll tell you what you can do. Give up any ideas about how these people should behave and what they should be like. Let go of any expectations associated with them. Refuse to make any judgments about them. Start looking at them with the eyes of the Spirit. Instead of judging, not accepting and not understanding, tell yourself: “It’s wonderful that all people are so different.” Find the ability to look at other people with interest, with fascination to observe how their differences from you manifest themselves.

You may not immediately be able to simply look at the differences of other people without condemnation, without criticism, without drawing any conclusions, but gradually you will get used to this point of view, and it will seem to you the only possible one. You will stop judging and criticizing someone just because you don’t like their behavior and it seems wrong.

Know that your disagreements and misunderstandings arise only from the fact that you have internalized a certain belief system since childhood, certain ideas about what is right and what is wrong. You approach people by judging them on this scale, on this belief system you have internalized. But do you feel like this belief system is becoming more and more limiting?

Imagine: each person has his own ideas, learned from childhood and adopted from older people around him, about what is right and what is wrong. Not all people have the same beliefs. You may think one thing is right, and another person may think something else. As a result, you judge each other without even noticing that both are captured by limiting beliefs – beliefs that simply do not allow you to look at the world more broadly, and do not allow you to see all the diversity and diversity of truth.

The fact is that for the Spirit there are no concepts of “right” and “wrong.” And when you see the world through the eyes of the Spirit, you stop demanding the “right” behavior from each other.

You understand that what seems right to you may be completely wrong to someone else. By stepping out of the narrow framework of ideas about what is right and what is wrong, you will allow each other to be who you are, you will give each other freedom, not limited by the narrow framework of limiting beliefs, you will clear the way for unconditional love between you – love, love, on the way of which there are no longer obstacles in the form of ideas about how the other should behave and what he should be.

Every time you feel some kind of discomfort in a relationship with a loved one, when disagreements or misunderstandings arise between you, and this makes you dissatisfied, or upset, or feel depressed, ask yourself: “What expectations of mine are not met? What do I want from this person and am not getting it?

Consider your expectation system. And then just abandon this system. Look at this person through the eyes of the Spirit and say: “He is different, how interesting and, in essence, wonderful that he is not like me, and that he does not meet my expectations!”

Dear ones, by freeing other people from the obligation to meet your expectations, you will also free yourself from the obligation to meet their expectations! Oh, this could be a real test for your relationship. But true love will survive these tests, and then you will be rewarded: there will be more intimacy, trust, empathy, understanding between you than before – and all because you gave each other more freedom and began to respect each other’s identity.

Do you understand, dear ones? Now I have given you the key to resolving a very large number of crises in relationships with loved ones. This key is to change your expectations and ideas about what the other should be like. If you do this, you will open a new important stage in your own development. You will get rid of the rules, ideas and beliefs with which you have lived until now. You will essentially get rid of the prison walls in which these limiting beliefs have shackled you.

This is a new level of development of your consciousness. It’s a new way of perceiving the world where you start to see it in a much broader way. This is, in essence, the transformation of you into a new person, free from the framework and blinders that prevented you from living fully and feeling happy.

“Weapons” against provocateurs: transformation of dissonant energies into creative energies.

I know that not all crises in relationships will be resolved by abandoning previous expectations and ideas about people. There are those who, despite all your efforts, will not accept you as you have become: a renewed, free, spiritually highly developed person, with changed values, beliefs and ideas about life. We have already said what kind of people these are: these are those who have some kind of selfish interests in relation to you, want to control you and get something from you. 

And you won’t be able to part with all of these people easily! Some will not want to part with you. Some will provoke you in every possible way, forcing you to experience the emotions that they need, and thereby tie you to themselves in order to continue to influence and control.

Can you guess who I’m talking about? Yes, each of you in your environment has someone, some person, or even more than one, who behaves in a similar way. And this is what I want to tell you: such relationships are incompatible with the Divine energies of love and light, and therefore must be transformed. Who can and should transform them? It is you.

It may seem to you that nothing depends on you, that you cannot do anything with the one who is tormenting you. But remember who you really are. You are a master capable of transforming energies. You came to Earth to become such a master and learn how to transform energies. You are studying and have already learned a lot. 

But since your interactions with other people are also based on energies, who else if not you to transform them? If this relationship does not suit you, it means that you are not satisfied with the energies involved in this relationship. But any energy can be transformed, and you know how to do it!

Don’t worry, now I’ll tell you about this in more detail and give you a hint on what and how exactly you can do.

Anyone who wants to control you somehow provokes you into negative emotions. It can provoke you into resentment, anger, disappointment, despondency, or simply make you feel worse about yourself. He may do this consciously or unconsciously. He can do this verbally and non-verbally. It may not even be doing anything but producing these dissonant energies, silently inviting you to join them. In this case, you may feel uncomfortable simply from the mere presence of this person.

You have three choices:

first  - you can join the flows of dissonant energy, take them upon yourself;

second, you can refuse to join these threads;

third  - you can join these flows in order to immediately, without letting them affect you, transform them into something else – namely, energy of a creative type.

In the first case, you find yourself at the mercy of dissonant energies and the negative emotions associated with them, thanks to which you surrender yourself to the complete power of the one who provoked you to this.

Do you know that negative emotions are a means of controlling you?

When you find yourself in the grip of negative (dissonant, destructive) emotions, you stop managing yourself and your life. You are losing control. And when you don’t control yourself, someone else begins to control you. A provocateur provokes you to display negative emotions precisely for this purpose. He invites you: “Join my dissonant energies so that you can be completely under my control.” If you agree, then you lose control not only over yourself and your energies – you thereby miss out on your life itself, since you give it to the power of other people’s dissonant energies, and they already rule the space of your life, leading you to the wrong place. necessary.

In the second and third cases, you maintain control over yourself and your life, you do not submit to other people’s dissonant energies, thanks to which you maintain your strength and your position as the master of yourself and your life.

How to achieve this?

To refuse to join the dissonant energies directed at you, there are several ways:

Remember that you are provoked to display negative emotions, and see in this a lesson, which is to learn not to succumb to provocations. If you find yourself in a similar situation, tell yourself: “This is a provocation that I will not succumb to. This is my lesson – not to give in to provocations.”

Mentally place yourself inside a protective cocoon consisting of the pure energies of love and the light of God.

Say to yourself: “I am in the space of Divinity, I am in the space of eternity and infinity, I am in the Divine House, and this person just passes by and cannot influence me in any way!”

In many cases, these methods can help you, but they still have some disadvantages: they require a lot of concentration, concentration and energy expenditure.

In addition, if the provocateur persists, if he, seeing that his blows do not reach the target, begins to use more sophisticated methods of influencing you, your protection may be effective only temporarily. With strong pressure, it is not protected from “breakdowns”.

“Breakthroughs” can also occur for internal reasons: if you have similar dissonant energies inside, due to which you have weak, sore spots, and the attacker touches them, then the defense can be broken even by you from the inside: the dissonant energies you have act in unison with the dissonant energies of the provocateur, as a result, these energies multiply many times and “explode” your defense from the inside. Therefore, it makes sense to resort to the above two methods only in cases when you are not “attacked” very strongly and when this is done by people who are not very significant to you.

In other situations, it is better to choose the third option: transform negative energies.

To accept dissonant energies and, without allowing them to influence you, to transform them into energies of a creative type, there is only one way:

Look into these energies like in a mirror, see your reflection in them, and then sincerely thank you for the lesson taught.

Anyone who directs dissonant energies at you does so because they see some part of you that is similar to these energies. He sees that there is something inside you that will respond to his provocation. He sees in you a certain “clue” that he can cling to and spin you into negativity.

If you didn’t have this “hook”, with the same vibrations as the dissonant energies directed at you, this person simply would not get involved with you, feeling that there is nothing in you that can succumb to his provocation.

Your task: to recognize this “clue” in yourself and admit its existence. This will be tantamount to the fact that you, like in a mirror, look at the one who is tormenting you and admit: yes, this is my reflection, it is also in me.

Difficult? It will not be difficult, dear ones, if you try it in practice. Right now, remember the one who is tormenting you, and ask yourself the question: “What exactly is unpleasant to me about him? What bothers me about his behavior?” Having answered this question, ask the next one: “What is present in myself that is similar to this?”

Reach deep within yourself to find this similarity.

For example, someone behaves rudely to you. But maybe you are not always sensitive either?

Someone scolds, condemns you. But don’t you ever judge others?

Someone disturbs you, invades your personal territory, claims that you give him your time and vitality. But haven’t you ever sought to enter someone else’s territory (for example, to get into a “not your own” society, to do something “not your own” business) in order to get something there for yourself – something that does not actually belong to you?

The one who torments you is now simply reflecting these energies of yours. He shows you a mirror – shows you your weaknesses and imperfections, shows you what dissonant energies you are still in the grip of, and therefore helps you get rid of them.

Isn’t this worthy of gratitude on your part?

You know what gratitude is.

Gratitude is a powerful transformative force. This is creative energy that protects you from any influence and is capable of transforming any energies into creative ones.

You can do this work alone, when you feel safe and the offender is not around. You can remember a situation when he provoked you into negativity, and mentally thank him for it, seeing that he, like in a mirror, shows you your reflection.

But first remember your Divine dignity and Divine perfection. Remember that your Divine dignity does not depend on whether there are any dissonant energies within you. It does not depend on your behavior, nor on your emotions, nor on the attitude of other people towards you – it does not depend on anything at all.

For God you are always perfect, remember this .

Tell yourself: “No one and nothing can change my Divine dignity and my Divine perfection.” In this way, you will recognize the power of God within yourself, and call on this power to help. In this way, you will be able to completely neutralize the impact of dissonant energies – both from within and from without.

Already such a mental replay of the situation, at a distance, can completely change you and your relationship with the provocateur. It is possible that he will simply stop behaving the way he did before. If you have to face his “attacks” again, then it’s time to practice, so to speak, “in the field.” Give up your usual reactions (defend, object, justify, defend your point of view, etc.). 

Instead, take it calmly as a lesson. See the situation through the eyes of the Spirit. Mentally say: “Yes, he is showing me my reflection now.” Then mentally thank for it. Depending on the circumstances, you can also say thank you out loud!

You’ll see what happens. Whoever attacks you will be disarmed. His blow will hit the void. Your acceptance and gratitude will simply dissipate the force of his blow, and in addition, they will dissipate those dissonant energies that within you served as a target for attacks. You will feel a surge of strength. And you will understand that even from a fight that previously upset you and unsettled you, you can come out with a feeling of joy, love and freedom.

Each time you will improve in this skill – the skill of accepting and transforming any dissonant energies with gratitude.

What happens next? People who wanted to control you will feel that this has become completely impossible. They will be forced to either leave or change. Whether the first or second happens is their choice, which you can no longer influence.

If a person was motivated only by selfish interests, he will leave – do not prevent this, because these dissonant relationships only pull you back. If this person has even a drop of truly unconditional love for you, he may decide to change and build a relationship with you on new foundations, the foundations of love and mutual respect, and not parasitism and control. In this case, do not push the person away, give him a chance to follow your example and begin transformation in the light and love of God.

But in any case, remember: your own spiritual development is a priority that cannot be s********d for the sake of other people. There is no virtue in s*********g yourself, giving up your true interests for the sake of others, and there is no meaning in it either for you or for others.

Go your own way, no matter what! Gather your strength within yourself. Strengthen the core of Divine energy within yourself. Resolve crises in relationships so that your development does not suffer damage. You are only responsible for yourself. You are responsible to God for fulfilling the tasks for which you came to Earth. You shouldn’t let anyone stop you from doing this.

Do not give in to the dissonant energies directed at you, transform them. Take power and control of your life into your own hands. Your inner strength – the strength of your Divinity – is enough for this.

Practice.

Exercise 1. Affirmations for getting out of loneliness.

As we transform into the light and love of God, our environment changes—this is a natural and inevitable process. Those whom we considered close may turn out to be strangers, and we are at a loss, feeling lonely, misunderstood and abandoned…

First, let’s remember that this condition is temporary. Other people will definitely come into our lives, like-minded people, those with whom we will be connected by truly unconditional love.

And secondly, let’s remember that we are all just playing temporary games on planet Earth, and the feeling of abandonment, disconnection from each other are just game conditions that have nothing to do with reality. In reality we are all one, in reality we are all loved by each other. In reality, there are no strangers among us! We are all “ours”, we are all one family. Remember this when playing games of alienation from each other. And do not allow this illusion to seriously subjugate your soul.

Since loneliness and alienation are only illusions, it depends on us whether we succumb to these illusions or not. Remember that the world around us is plastic, and we can change it with our intention. We can also change the conditions of the games we play. And if we are tired of playing the game called loneliness, we can change it to something else. Just use your intention in this! And, of course, affirmations will help.

Say the following phrases daily, morning and evening, out loud, looking into the eyes of your reflection in the mirror.

I am the Divine Spirit experiencing in a human body on planet Earth. As Spirit, I am a part of the Divine whole. I make up a whole together with other people. Each person, as a Spirit, is the same particle of the Divine whole as I am.

We are one! All humanity is Divine in its essence. We are all particles of God, His sparks, His rays. We are all rays emanating from a single Divine source. We are all one, we are all God.

Now I feel my oneness with the Divine family, which is all humanity. In God we are always together. No loneliness! I feel connected to the Divine Family. I’m never alone!

I am in the energies of light and love of God, and these energies attract to me, to all levels of my existence, and into my earthly life, the love and light of other particles of God – people whose vibrations are similar to mine. I call upon those who vibrate at the same level as me. I call upon those whose love will be attracted by my love. 

I encourage those with whom a relationship of love, mutual respect and understanding is possible. I call on kindred spirits, like-minded people, and everyone who has discovered the energies of love and light within themselves.

We are together to create a new, happy life full of love and light. We are together to build heaven on Earth. We are together to give each other warmth, understanding, help and support. We are together in the name of love and God. Let it be so. 

Exercise 2. Creating perfect relationships .

You know that everything material is first created on subtle planes, on energy-informational levels. The same goes for relationships. If you want to improve your relationships with your loved ones, if you want a new, perfect relationship to come into your life, start creating it first in your imagination, using visualization, and then use intention to bring this “project” to life. To do this, it is enough to devote some time to this exercise every night, before falling asleep.

First stage.

 Close your eyes, take a comfortable, relaxed position, drive away extraneous thoughts, and begin to imagine your perfect image. This image should correspond to how you would like to be, how you would like to see yourself. How would you like to feel? How would you like to look? How would you like to behave in order to always be satisfied with yourself and your behavior?

Imagine all this coming true. Mentally create an image of yourself, endowed with all those perfect qualities that you dream of. Imagine seeing this image in front of you. This is your energy-informational double, embodying all the best qualities and reflecting your best health and sense of self.

It’s okay if the first time you don’t get this image to be clear, bright and complete enough. You will develop it and supplement it every night. The main thing is to feel the ideal state of health that you dream of.

Second phase. 

Continuing to imagine an ideal image of yourself, say mentally: “I express my firm intention to connect with my ideal energy-informational double. Ideal energy-informational double, I ask you to connect with my physical body and become one with me.” Then imagine how the image you created is combined with your physical body and connects with you on a cellular level.

Third stage. 

Now your task is to create an image of the perfect relationship that you would dream of creating with your loved ones. Imagine how you, in your perfect image, create such a relationship. What kind of relationship is this? How would you like to see your behavior and the behavior of your loved ones in these relationships? Remember that an ideal relationship is one based on unconditional love and nothing else. 

Imagine how you communicate with each other on the basis of Divine love, mutual respect, understanding, sympathy, warmth. Imagine how this makes you feel. It doesn’t matter if your relationship isn’t like that in reality. Imagine that they are already like that. Create a tangible energy-informational image of such a new, perfect relationship.

Fourth stage. 

State your intention: “I bring into reality the image of a perfect relationship with … (name) created by me.”

Fifth stage (optional). 

Imagine an ideal relationship with those people whom you have not yet met, and whom you do not yet know, but would like to meet in your life (if you dream of meeting like-minded people, kindred spirits, loving and understanding people). Feel how you will behave, what you will think and feel in such a relationship. Set your intention to attract these relationships into your earthly life.

The final stage. 

Turn to God, Spirit, your Divine Self, asking for help in this work and in realizing your intentions. Express your gratitude for this help.

Continue this work every night, striving for the images you create to become brighter and more distinct, to take on flesh and b***d. Do this until your intentions begin to come true. Afterwards, you can also continue this work, adjusting the images of ideal relationships you have created as necessary.

(translation from book “Kryon. Staircase leading to Paradise. How to turn the energy of problems into a force that gives a long and happy life.”)

To be continued… 

With Love, Liberty

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