Daily Quote for April 10, 2025 | Abraham-Hicks

In the modern world of dating—filtered through apps, algorithms, and endless swiping—it is easy to treat the search for a partner like a high-stakes scavenger hunt. We often approach romance with a “destination-first” mindset: we believe that life truly begins only when we find “The One.”

However, a timeless insight from Esther Hicks reminds us of a fundamental mistake many seekers make: “Most who are looking for mates that they haven’t quite found yet are so interested in getting to where they’re going that they’re missing the fun of going there.”

This simple observation carries a profound truth about how we live our lives and why our search for love often feels more like a chore than an adventure.

We live in a culture obsessed with results. From career milestones to fitness goals, we are conditioned to believe that the “gap” between where we are and where we want to be is a space of lack—a void to be filled as quickly as possible. When it comes to romance, this manifests as a restless impatience. We view the period of being single or dating as a waiting room for “the real thing.”

But when we are solely focused on the destination, we treat every date that doesn’t turn into a marriage proposal as a failure. We treat every quiet evening alone as a sign of loneliness rather than an opportunity for solitude. This desperation to “arrive” at a relationship status often blinds us to the beauty of the present moment.

If we look at this through the lens of the Law of Attraction—the philosophy Esther Hicks is known for—there is a deeper energetic issue at play. If you are focused on the lack of a partner, you create a vibrational resonance with “wanting” rather than “having.”

When you are “so interested in getting to where you’re going,” you are essentially telling the universe that your current life isn’t good enough. This creates a heavy, anxious energy. Ironically, this is the very energy that often keeps a healthy, joyful partner at arm’s length. Love is a high-frequency emotion; it is attracted to joy, ease, and playfulness. If you aren’t having fun on the way to the relationship, you’re not in the right state of mind to welcome one in.

So, what does it mean to enjoy the “fun of going there”?

It means reclaiming your autonomy and your joy now. It means going on a date not as an interview for a life partner, but as a chance to hear a new story and meet a new soul. It means using your time as a single person to fall in love with your own life—indulging in hobbies, traveling, and building friendships that fulfill you.

When you start having fun in the “not yet,” something magical happens: the pressure evaporates. When you are genuinely enjoying the journey, you no longer need the destination to justify your happiness. You become a person who is already whole, already happy, and already radiant.

Finding a partner is a beautiful milestone, but it is just one chapter in a much larger book. If you spend the entire chapter of “The Search” wishing it were over, you’ve essentially wished away a significant portion of your life.

Today, try to take the pressure off. Look around at your life as it is today—the freedom you have, the friends who love you, the potential of an afternoon spent exactly how you choose. The “mate” you are looking for is on their way, but don’t let their absence keep you from the party that is happening right now.

After all, the journey isn’t just the path to the prize; the journey is the prize.

[Reference]:

Most who are looking for mates that they haven’t quite found yet are so interested in getting to where they’re going that they’re missing the fun of going there.

Excerpted from San Francisco, CA on 3/2/97

Our Love,
Esther
(and Abraham and Jerry)