A Necessary Condition for Harmonious Relationships | Liberty

Lesson 2
The power of “I Am” is a necessary condition for harmonious relationships.

Realize and accept your Self as a value.

Surprisingly, many people live with virtually no sense of their Self, their essence, or even their presence in the world. This is a strange state of not feeling oneself, when only by looking in the mirror a person realizes that he exists. If he is placed for some time in a place where there are no mirrors, he risks losing himself altogether, ceasing to understand whether he exists or not – not as a body, not as an organism, but as a personality and as a Spirit.

This is due to the fact that we easily identify ourselves with our external appearance, and find it difficult to identify with our own inner essence.

Do you have a strong and confident sense of your own presence within yourself? “I am!” – this is how you can describe this feeling. This joyful feeling is the feeling that I am ME, I am valuable as I am, I have the right to be, to exist, to feel loved and worthy.

With this feeling – I Am! – you need to be completely imbued with it, accept it with your body, soul, every cell, and your deepest inner essence. Then it becomes a support, a core, a feeling of strength inside. The feeling that you stand very firmly and firmly on your feet, that you walk confidently and boldly through life, that you know exactly what you want and know how to achieve it.

The feeling of “I Am” is necessary for a fulfilling life. Without it, success in anything is impossible. Without it, full communication is impossible.

The feeling “I Am” is a feeling of inner fulfillment that comes from self-awareness and self-awareness of one’s own worth. Accordingly, if the feeling “I Am” is absent, a feeling of emptiness arises inside. There really is an emptiness there. Where I should be present, suddenly there is no one. But nothing can arise from emptiness. We try to get what we want, but emptiness attracts only emptiness, and desires do not come true.

We are trying to establish relationships – but if we are absent from ourselves, then who will enter into relationships, who will communicate? There is no one if we ourselves are absent from our own lives. And if we are absent, relationships will not work out.

Why is it that many of us do not feel our own presence in ourselves and in our lives? Unfortunately, it is not uncommon when in childhood we hear from adults: “You are nobody”, “You are nothing”, “You don’t deserve anything”, etc. There is no need to be offended by your parents – they were also told in childhood something similar, they were also taught in this way to abandon themselves, to erase themselves from their own lives.

This is a common misfortune of humanity, which has been going on for more than one millennium: people who are deprived of the feeling of “I Am” and awareness of their own worth simply pass on this disharmonious state by inheritance, along with their genes, as well as by their example and their upbringing.

But now the time has come when, according to Kryon, it is possible and necessary to break this vicious circle. People are appearing, and there are more and more of them, who do not want to tolerate this state of absence of themselves in their own lives. People become aware of themselves and regain their Divinity. And together with it, together with Divine love, they return to themselves, themselves, return to the feeling of their own worth, to the joyful feeling “I Am!”

People who do this wonderful, inspiring and promising work of reclaiming themselves, their true sense of self, their unity with their Self, as a rule, must return to childhood mental traumas that created a feeling of worthlessness, uselessness, and, as a result, emptiness, failure within, instead of a strong and confident feeling of “I Am”.

Don’t be afraid of this work. Ask for support from your Divine family, from the angels – and do it as best you can, gradually, to the best of your ability, working through the erroneous beliefs instilled in childhood, neutralizing the dissonant energies associated with them.

As you neutralize these energies, you will be able to fill yourself with the power of unconditional love and restore your sense of presence in yourself and in life, the sense of “I Am.” The following exercise will help you with this.

Exercise 1
Healing childhood traumas that prevent you from feeling the value of your Self.

Take any comfortable position. Close your eyes. Breathe evenly and measuredly. Drive away all extraneous thoughts.

It is important that you are in a calm, quiet place where you feel comfortable. You can imagine that you find yourself in some natural place, which for you is an analogue of earthly paradise. It is important that you feel safe.

Imagine that you are surrounded by a cocoon of golden shining light, and behind your back there is an angel protecting you. No one and nothing can influence you, and nothing, including your past, has power over you!

Mentally connect with your Divine essence. When you feel confident enough, establish yourself in a state of unconditional love and inner strength – imagine that you see in front of you your parents, father and mother (or one of them, or people replacing them, depending on who raised you). It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship you have with your parents – is it or was – in reality, now is the time to restore harmony.

Mentally thank your parents for giving you life, for taking care of you and raising you. Say you understand: they gave you what they could give.

Thank your parents for the good things that happened in your childhood. Then talk about how you felt in their family as a child. Remember that you are safe now. The past can no longer hurt you – you are very far from it. Therefore, you can speak calmly, without offense or accusations – if these were not the most pleasant feelings.

Talk about what made you feel disadvantaged, not good enough, underappreciated, misunderstood, unhappy. Speak calmly, without accusing. Say you understand that these were lessons you had to learn to become stronger and gain self-esteem, even despite what you received from your parents. Give thanks for this.

Then think about what you received in your family that bothers you to this day. Does the feeling that you are weak and helpless, that you are “nobody” return to you? Do you find it difficult to feel unconditional love and experience the feeling of “I Am”? Are you plagued by self-doubt?

Be sure to say this out loud. But remember that you do this without judgment. You shouldn’t try to change your parents. You give them the freedom to be who they are. But for yourself, you choose the freedom to follow a different path, to be different from them, to remain yourself as you are, and to value yourself as such.

Perhaps pain will stir in your soul, emotions will rise – do not try to suppress them, be sure to admit to yourself that you are hurt because you have received mental trauma. Breathe intensely or imitate sobbing to more effectively release these emotions.

Ask the angel standing behind you to help you with this. Ask him to help you fill with inner strength, the energy of unconditional love. Imagine how this energy gently envelops you and heals your mental trauma.

The feeling of uncertainty, helplessness, or worthlessness is simply washed away, erased by the energy of love. You are filled with it from the inside. The feeling of pain disappears, as does the feeling of emptiness, unfulfillment, absence of oneself in oneself. You are filled with love from the inside, you feel that God accepts you as you are.

Mentally tell your parents that you forgive them all the troubles that they, voluntarily or unwittingly, caused for you. Say that you keep for yourself all the good things that you received from them, and free yourself from everything that bothers you, from unnecessary or bad things that you received from them. Tell them that you give them freedom, and you yourself choose to move on freely, in your own way.

Imagine that an angel standing behind you blesses you for this. It helps you forgive your parents completely, and you yourself feel forgiven and freed.

Activate the “I Am” State.

Initially, by nature, each of us is given a stable feeling of “I Am.” In an infant, this sense is activated. Notice how babies actively assert themselves. They come into this world very brightly and noisily! They demand recognition without any embarrassment, demand attention to themselves!

When a child grows up and they begin to instill in him (verbally or simply by example) that “you don’t matter much,” or even “you’re nobody,” the sense of self begins to weaken and melt away. A teenager rebels against not being recognized by adults, but this rebellion comes more likely from an internal lack of himself – from an emptiness that wants to be filled. Whereas the baby screams and cries precisely from inner fullness, from the overwhelming feeling of “I Am!”

Even if over the years we completely lose the feeling of “I Am”, the memory of it still remains within us.

Because the feeling “I Am” itself does not disappear, it simply remains in an inactive state. We ourselves make it inactive, by mistake: we stop trusting our sense of inner fullness, and begin to believe those around us, who suggest (more often wordlessly than with words) that we don’t have any such fullness inside us, but there is only emptiness (if you are “nobody and nothing,” then you have a vacuum inside).

It’s time to fix this mistake!

It’s time to start trusting yourself again more than those around you (who don’t know you as well as you know yourself!). You need to turn inside yourself and find the feeling of “I Am” within yourself and reactivate it. It is forgotten by you, but has not disappeared. You can simply turn on this feeling. To do this, you just need to find within yourself this point of support, this own center, this feeling of yourself living, really existing.

The following exercise is aimed at activating the “I Am” state. You can do it as often as you want, even several times a day, until this condition becomes normal and stable for you.

Exercise 2
Incorporating the sense of “I Am”.

This exercise can be performed in any position – sitting, lying, standing, but it is important that your back is straight. Close your eyes and direct your attention inward. Try to detach yourself from the outside world for a while – you are now completely in your inner space, and the outside world has moved away, as if temporarily ceased to exist for you.

Say mentally: “I Am.” Repeat with pauses several times, listening to where these words resonate and respond within you. Imagine that these words spread an energy wave throughout your body.

Then repeat the same thing several times with pauses in a whisper, again listening to the wave inside the body.

Then say it out loud several times with pauses, making sure that your attention remains focused inside the body and does not scatter outside.

When you feel the resonance of these words throughout your body, focus your attention on your spine and feel it. Imagine that your spine is a string glowing with bright white light. Direct your attention to the base of the spine (tailbone area), and say three times – once silently, once in a whisper, and once out loud: “I am LIVING.” Feel the wave of energy, the response in the body, and imagine how the lower part of the spine – the luminous string – flashes and sparkles, and the wave of this light rises higher.

Direct your attention to your lumbar spine and say three times (to yourself, in a whisper, out loud): “I FEEL.” Imagine a bright flash in this area.

Shift your attention higher – to the waist area, and say three times, also to yourself, in a whisper and out loud: “I EXERCISE WILL.” Imagine a bright flash of white.

Shift your attention to the area of the spine at the level of the heart, and say to yourself, in a whisper and out loud: “I LOVE.” Imagine the spine string flashing brightly in this area.

Shift your attention to the base of your neck and say three times (also to yourself, in a whisper and out loud): “I SPEAK.” Imagine a bright flash here too.

Shift your attention to the area of the center of your head (approximately at eyebrow level), and say to yourself, in a whisper and out loud: “I SEE.” Imagine a flash of cold white light here too.

Bring your attention to the area above the top of your head and say, silently, whisperingly and out loud: “I AM.” Imagine a bright white flash, the energy of which begins to flow down into your body, filling it entirely, and at the same time the energy rises up along the brightly shining spine. Thus, your entire body is engulfed in streams of white radiant energy, which forms a strong, reliable cocoon around you.

Repeat “I Am” a few more times. I am. I Am,” while remaining focused within.

Become rooted in the authentic center.

To enter into normal, harmonious relationships, you need to be yourself, real. What does it mean?

This means feeling your inner self and proceeding in communication from it. That is, to remain within yourself, in your center.

When we don’t have the feeling of “I Am”, there is no stable internal sense of ourselves – we try to build communication through some external masks, roles, superficial reactions that do not reflect our true essence. If we do not start from our real selves, then communication becomes unreal. This is only an appearance of communication, in which, in fact, we are not present. We pretend to communicate, but our inner essence is not included in it.

This is the problem of many people who, for this reason, cannot build normal relationships with others. But often they blame others for this. Whereas, first of all, you need to look inside yourself and ask yourself questions: “Who am I? What am I? Do I accept myself as I am? Do I feel my true essence? Am I engaging in communication with my true inner essence – or is this communication only superficial, external?”

There is no need to judge and e*****e yourself if you discover your own erroneous approaches to communication. We are not to blame for anything, even if we make mistakes. Over thousands of years of human history, certain stereotypes and erroneous patterns of behavior have developed, which we unconsciously follow, since we have been accustomed to them since childhood. This is not our fault. But we, if we want, can realize what exactly we were doing wrong and change these erroneous strategies to other, productive ones.

The erroneous strategy in this case lies in the habit of communicating not from the essence – to the essence, based not on your inner self, but on external, superficial masks, roles, reactions, emotions. In this case, essentially no one, emptiness, enters into communication. If we feel like a “nobody,” we remain a “nobody” in communication. But “nobody” is emptiness, which means communication is impossible, only appearance, illusion, instead of communication is possible.

But in fact, each of us is not “nobody” at all! It is a mistake to consider and feel like a nobody!

A productive strategy is to stop being “nobody”, realize and feel your true Self, and communicate based on it. Then communication will be fulfilling, authentic, real.

By rooting yourself in the sense of “I Am,” you proclaim your existence to the face of the Universe. You directly and openly declare, even without words, that you are not an empty place, you are a value, you are someone who has the right to live, feel, exercise will, love, speak, see, BE.

This has nothing to do with egoistic self-affirmation. “I Am” is the worldview of the authentic, Divine Self, this is the voice of the Spirit, rightfully manifesting itself in the material world.

To communicate with others on behalf of the true Self, you need to feel it as your center, foundation, and root yourself in this center. Train in this constantly, and then no one and nothing will be able to knock you out of this center. If you feel that it is easy for you to take root in your true Self when you are alone, but it is difficult for you to stay in it in public, this exercise is especially necessary for you.

Exercise 3
Rooted in the true center.

Close your eyes, direct your attention inward, feel that you are in your inner space. The outside world seems to cease to exist. You are alone with the true reality of your Self.

Say “I Am” several times. Feel how these words resonate in your body, how your inner space is filled with waves of energy.

Focus on the area where the words “I Am” resonate (you feel) the strongest. Imagine that you are plunging deeper and deeper into this point. This is the point of your true center, your inner Self.

Imagine that you are anchored at this point, relying on it as a very powerful and reliable foundation. No one and nothing can knock you out of this point – you are so firmly rooted in it. You feel calm, confident, reliable. Rooting in the true center gives such sensations.

Imagine that from this center you perceive both your inner space and yourself.

You look through the eyes of love – because this center is the source of love. You feel at the center of the energies of love, and are filled with these energies from the inside. The source of love feeds you constantly, and you constantly have access to it; to do this, you just need to be rooted in your true center.

Learn to communicate from your true center.

It is important to realize and feel that being in the true center does not mean withdrawing into yourself, separating yourself from the world and stopping reacting to what is happening outside. On the contrary, when we are rooted in an authentic center, we become more receptive to what is happening.

Yes, we are more protected because we are protected by our Divinity, but at the same time, paradoxically, we are more open because we see the world through the eyes of the Spirit.

The eyes of the Spirit see, firstly, much more than the eyes of a person, secondly, the gaze of the Spirit is clearer, objective, unbiased, and thirdly, the Spirit is fearless, therefore it is not afraid to be open to perception.

We as humans can make mistakes, seeing the world through the veil of our illusions and misconceptions. The spirit sees reality as it is. Accordingly, looking at the world through the eyes of the Spirit, we can literally see through other people, understand their true goals, motives, and even read their thoughts.

In addition, looking through the eyes of the Spirit helps us think and act more adequately, make only the right decisions and take the right steps.

To achieve this, you must, rooted in your true center, learn to stay in it not only alone with yourself, but also in any situation, as well as during communication with other people.

As long as you are rooted in your true center, you are not afraid of any influences, no one will unsettle you, and you can communicate with anyone, while remaining confident, strong, open, loving – yourself.

And most importantly, you can communicate on a very deep level. When communication occurs at high, Divine levels of communication participants, we receive a qualitatively new relationship. This is a genuine deep contact of people-Gods. Based on unconditional love, mutual respect, complete understanding and acceptance of each other’s highest dignity.

Someday all people will communicate like this, it will be the norm. So far, this method of communication is being mastered by pioneers, warriors of the Spirit. They are the ones who lay down the moral and ethical standards of behavior for the people of the new Earth. Yes, most often we have to communicate with people who are not yet ready to accept these norms.

But we must introduce them by example, at least unilaterally. By entering into communication from center to center, speaking on behalf of our Divine Self, we encourage the other to respond from the Divine Self, even if he is not aware of it.

If you have already awakened in the Spirit, then by turning from your Divine center to the Divine center of another, you help him to awaken as well. In any case, your communication will become qualitatively different. Even one participant in communication can contribute to the harmony of relationships – regardless of the position of the other.

Don’t give in to the dissonance of this other. Instead, calmly and firmly draw your line of communication from center to center. In practice, this is not at all as difficult as it might seem. But you have to practice, you have to try, you have to try.

If you do this, you will definitely find a line of behavior that is suitable for you, corresponding to your inner harmony.

Exercise 4
Communication from center to center.

First, do this exercise in your imagination. Close your eyes and focus on your inner center. Imagine that around you, in your inner space, you place people with whom you are familiar. You look at them from your center – from a point of peace and balance, from your inner dimension. You look at them from the outside – and thanks to this you can see them with different eyes.

These are the eyes of your true Self, and therefore they see everything in its true light.

Your perception of these people is no longer mixed with any emotions and expectations that you usually experience for these people. Thanks to this, you can understand their true feelings, thoughts, state of mind. You will see a more objective picture.

Imagine that you are addressing one of these people without losing focus on your center. You are turning from your true self. Just mentally greet this person. Imagine him answering you. Imagine that throughout your entire interaction you are looking at him and communicating with him from your center, addressing his center, his inner Self.

At the first opportunity, try to perceive people and communicate with them in this way in real life situations.

Place yourself at the center of your own universe.

Finding your own center means becoming the center of your own Universe. You and the space of your life – space is not physical, the space of the Spirit – this is your Universe. This Universe must have a center – that control point that coordinates all the components of your reality in order to keep them in harmony.

Only you can be this center. If you put someone else at the center of your Universe, the Universe begins to fall apart!

Unfortunately, many of us have been taught to consider other people more important and valuable than ourselves. Therefore, very often we leave our Divine pedestal, intended only for us, in order to place someone else on it. In fact, this manifests itself in the fact that we deny ourselves the right to be ourselves, we follow not our own interests, needs and desires, but those of others, we follow the lead of others, essentially s*********g ourselves.

Kryon constantly says that each of us came into this world to live our own lives, to realize the tasks of our Spirit. If we don’t do this, we are betraying ourselves and not fulfilling our purpose. The fact that we lived for others does not justify us in the eyes of God.

We came to live our lives without replacing it with the lives of other people.

This is not a call for selfishness. Selfishness is the neglect of other people in the name of one’s own aggrandizement and self-affirmation. Kryon constantly talks about the equality of all people before God, the need for unconditional love and mutual respect. We can interact with each other as equals, love others, and at the same time put ourselves first in our lives. But don’t forget that other people also have the right to put themselves first in their lives!

Everyone is the center of their own Universe. You can only put yourself first in your own life – but you cannot claim to be first in someone else’s life. You must give this place in his life to him and only him.

This is the difference between this position and egoism. An egoist strives to take first place in other people’s lives. Whereas a spiritual person claims first place only in his own life, but not in other lives. You can’t be the Sun in someone else’s Universe. Become the Sun for yourself, and that is enough.

Only by becoming the center of your own Universe, and giving others the right to become the center for themselves, can normal relationships be established. This will be a relationship of truly equal people who respect each other, in which each takes into account the rights and self-esteem of the other.

To harmonize the sphere of your relationships, you need, paradoxical as it may sound, to be left alone with yourself. Allow yourself at least a little privacy. You don’t need to go to a desert island or go into the desert to do this. Continue to live your normal life if you want, but every day give yourself the opportunity to be alone with yourself for at least a little while.

During these minutes or hours of solitude, tell yourself: “I came into this world to realize the tasks of my Spirit. I came to walk my own path and live my life. This is my most important goal. Therefore, I represent the most important value for myself – value number one.”

Finding the state of “I Am” and putting yourself at the center of your own life is a necessary condition for healthy, harmonious relationships, and for a fulfilling life in general.

The following exercise can be repeated as often as you like, and you will feel yourself gaining Divine dignity and regaining your rightful central place in your own life.

Exercise 5
Take your golden pedestal.

Stay alone with yourself, take any comfortable, relaxed position, close your eyes. Imagine that you see in front of you a tall and very beautiful golden pedestal, throne, or throne – choose any image that is closer to you. It’s meant for you.

You are the one who must ascend to it and rightfully take center stage in your life!

Do you think this pedestal is free or occupied by someone else? It can only be occupied by those whom you yourself put there, giving them the first and main place in your life, leaving yourself with secondary roles. Whom have you placed on a pedestal, while you yourself are huddling forlornly at its foot?

No matter how close and dear these people are to you, each of them has their own life, and each of them has their own golden pedestal, and they should occupy a central, first and main place in their lives, but not in yours.

You shouldn’t stop loving them. But in your life you must give first place to yourself and only yourself.

Tell yourself, “This golden pedestal is for me and me only. It was given to me by God, it was intended for my Divine “I”. I rightfully take my place on this golden pedestal to realize myself as a Spirit, to build my life the way I need, the way it suits my highest interests.”

Imagine that you are gently asking to vacate the place assigned to you by those people whom you yourself have placed on the pedestal intended for you. And when it becomes free, you solemnly take your place on it. And immediately your transformation occurs – you connect with your Divine Self, you become a majestic being of light, an angel, you are filled with love and power, you glow, and your whole being seems to sing a beautiful song praising life, joy, your Divinity.

And the most interesting thing is that by your example you will help other people to take their own pedestal. Do not think that you simply drove away those to whom you previously gave way to your pedestal – no, you did not overthrow them at all! On the contrary, by taking your pedestal, you showed them the way to their own pedestals, to their dignity, to the honored place of the center of their own lives.

Summary. To build harmonious relationships, you first need to find inner support, the power of the self-awareness “I Am,” and take root in your true center.

To do this you need:

– realize and accept your Self as a value, healing mental traumas that prevent you from feeling your personality as something valuable,
– activate the state “I Am” – the inner feeling of your presence,
– to take root in your true Divine center, that is, to come to a state of inner fullness, joy, confidence, strength,
– learn to communicate from your true center, the Divine Self,
– put yourself first in your own life, and give others the right to take first place in their lives.

(translation from book “Kryon. Create a space of happiness and success around you! 10 Most Important Lessons)

With Love, Liberty

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